"It's not who you are that holds you back, it's who you think you're not." - Unknown
The last time we were in our local Books A Million, I roamed around with my Coconut Cream Frappe (Okay, like to die for, man!). I entertained myself with looking at just how many self-help/do-it-this-way type books there were on the shelves. They'll tell you how to live better, how to lose weight, how to love, how to be loved, how to save money (didn't touch that one), how to make more money, how to spend the money (didn't need that one), how to decorate everything under the sun, how to buy a dog, how to train the dog, how to name the dog, how to dress the dog, how to know if the dog has emotional or stress-related trouble, and on and on.
I can't speak on behalf of Spot's issues, but a lot of the things we're dealing with on a daily basis come down to one thing: CONFIDENCE
"If we all did the things we are capable of doing, we would literally astound ourselves." - Thomas A Edison
We all begin life with plenty of confidence. When a First grader shows up for the first day of school, he isn't afraid of saying something stupid or of not being dressed "good enough". He doesn't enter the room wondering if the other kids will accept him or not. He's there and he fully intends to have a good time!
By the time the first day of High School shows up, the same boy has insecurities about how he looks, his clothes, what'll be said, and so on. He's still the same kid, but life has changed him.
Being teased by others, failing tests, being laughed at, getting fired, losing games, being called names, illnesses, disappointments, getting insulted - all of these facts of life chisel away at a person's confidence and leave them with doubt and insecurities. There is very little that we can do about what life GIVES us, but what we give it back is completely within our control. We have to start believing in ourselves again!
"Nothing splendid has ever been achieved except by those who dared believe that something inside of them was superior to circumstance." - Bruce Barton
How? Stop fixating on the things that have gone wrong. They're done, they're in the past - stop going back for them. If you've had a failure in your life that you're having trouble getting past, ask yourself if you learned anything from it. Did you answer "Yes"? If you did, then it wasn't a failure
it was a lesson
. In High School you weren't given Grammar failures, you were given Grammar lessons. Lessons are good; if it weren't for them - WE WOULD NEVER GET ANY SMARTER THAN THE DAY WE WERE BORN
Start dwelling on your assetts. Literally remind yourself of your accomplishments, great traits and good qualities. Tell yourself how the only thing that could ever hold you back would be you. Do this out loud, but please not when others are around. They'd think you were off your nut.
Two articles were recently added to The Mental Fitness Center
that sort of go along with this line of thinking:What's Holding You Back?Put Your Sexy On
I know I sound like a CD on repeat, but learn something new. It shows you just how much you have on the ball and you might just start loving yourself some self!
"Life marks us all down, so it's just as well that we start out by overpricing ourselves." - Mignon McLaughlin
(By the way, why does the phrase, "sound like a broken record" exist? I started to type that out, but then my brain couldn't get around a broken record making any sound, let alone a repetitive one. I'll need to think about this one further. Further thought calls for a Coconut Frappe ;)